Frankly, there is a lot of great advice now for Steps. But, it is a lot! Too much to make sense of. I lost more than my stepfamily, the first time around. I also lost $120,000, my health, and career momentum. Our time, money, and sanity are VERY important. You deserve to know what works and what does not, now. I have done the hard work of gathering the secrets of success from books, websites, and research studies, as well as my own life as a stepmother (twice) and a half-sibling. You can think of this as your treasury of cheat sheets to the tricks of the trade. 30% of us make it. This is how.